My h and I are going to marriage therapy with a CBT psychologist. I told him at our first appt how I crying hysterically because of my h. I guess he didn't really believe me.

Last night we went in there fighting after a really great week. Long story... bottom line, I feel that my h is a Jekyll/Hyde who can control what torments me, but pretends he can't. This week proved he can control it.

So, rather than giving him kudos and being happy with him, I am so hurt that he caused me years of suffering.

Instead of owning up to his misdeeds, he threw it all back on me. He always does this, has no empathy, won't accept fault, blames me instead.

This caused the water works. I got hysterical in the Dr's office. So he referred me to a psychiatrist.

If I am emotionally hysterical and crying over this man (not anything else!) does that automatically mean I have a disorder?

He said that I did not have a reasonable reaction. But I think I do, considering this exasperating problem has been tormenting me every day for 20 years!

I am defending my life here.