leomama, you most definitely are an individual who tries very hard. I think the important thing to develop in "self" is an understanding that this "nobody cares" that you have experienced is mostly due to how in most cases the real problem is more in how a lot of people simply don't know "how to care".

As you make progress in your own healing and understanding your own challenges and what went into creating these challenges you have, often what can happen is that you learn a lot, and in that you begin to recognize the gravity of how dysfunctional human behavior patterns can actually be a lot more widespread in humanity then you realized.

As far as trying to get your daughter to understand? Well, that is most definitely a challenge at the age you have said your daughter is. Try to keep in mind that at age 16, most are still very self absorbed and simply don't have the capacity to understand things from the point you are in your life. It is most definitely a challenge being the parent of a child this age. I think it's important that you recognize that at this age there is still a lot of narcissism and considering how you struggle, that can be triggering. No, your daughter is not interested in reading a book about "you", at this age the typical is a desire to read a book about "self" instead. That can be triggering for someone who may have developed a PD from growing up in a family where the parents and siblings were self absorbed and simply were not "there" for you when you not only needed support, but deserved to have a parent "there" for you.