I disagree. At ten a child should be showing signs of independence and self reliance. This is a common age for parents to start leaving a child alone for short periods of time. So too I believe a child should be introduced to tasks around the house and take on responsibility for their own needs. For example, a child could be learning how to do their own laundry and helping out with meal preparation. So too I think a child at this age should be developing their own skills at emotional regulation and emotional problem solving. Sleeping with mom doesn't fit in with this. In fact my view is that it delays emotional and experiential development.

Ask yourself if his peers would find this appropriate and how they would react should this behavior be known.

I think you are best to encourage skill development and independence. I think a ten year old should have a large degree of resilience.

It can be very hard for us moms to cut the apron strings. Yet, I took a great deal of pride in the growth my own children experienced as a result.

Another issue that must be raised is our ability to say 'No'. This is so very important in child rearing.