Thanks, Okie,
When you take personal family medical leave, it is unpaid, and all other leaves, like sick leave, personal leave, are "frozen," and not used. Mom has enough money for me to use to care for her during this time, and since it's for her care, my sis and aunt think it's the best choice.
I've thought of trying to discuss it with her, but she can be irrational at this time and it might distress her also.
I just don't know, but I think the family medicl leave is the best choice.
Patty