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Old Oct 25, 2016, 05:26 PM
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I also recognize I'm being irrational because I'm using words like "nobody" so maybe I should stop using that. I can say that the people who were supposed to care about me: parents, husband, did not help me. I kind of relive the same thing when I go to a parents Al-Anon meeting: my parents didn't care about me. My dad used to tell me to smoke a joint when I was exhibiting emotional sensitivity.
((leomama)), when someone struggles with PTSD, it really does feel like nobody cared or cares or will have the capacity to understand how challenging PTSD really is. Let's be honest, PTSD is "lonely". You help others that struggle because you know that and you want to reach out to them so they don't feel so alone. It actually can be helpful to help others who struggle, and sometimes that can actually help "self" realize things about themselves that can be "self healing" at the same time.

Actually, one of my therapists told me that a lot of individuals get into the field of psychology and become psychologists that have problems themselves. Sometimes while they practice their own challenges come to the surface and it's not unusual for a psychologist to find themselves needing therapy at some point. However, some therapists find that by helping patients, they find answers to their deep "hurts or needs" and they grow as they help others.

You are never going to be "perfect" or have the capacity to solve all problems. The important thing is that you continue to grow as a person leomama. Honestly, the truth about life is we never stop growing and learning.