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Originally Posted by mostlylurking
It doesn't sound like you've been seeing this T for very long... could you find someone else? Invalidating your pain by suggesting it's a psychiatric disorder when it's the first time the T has seen this reaction from you seems like a huge leap on the T's part. And it feels like taking sides with your H as well. Saying older forms of therapy are "dangerous" is also a warning sign, because different people find different modalities helpful. Does he think that only CBT is ever useful? If that's the case, are both of your families of origin just off the table in terms of discussion? I would totally run the other way and never go back to that T if it were me.
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Yes, we've only seen him for a couple months. He didn't suggest a disorder. He only said I should see a different CBT psych by myself because I cried and was so deeply hurt (a very valid hurt IMO). Yes, he did say only CBT is useful and the other was dangerous, made it sound like CBT is now all that is being done. Is that true? Yes, families are off the table. Nothing matters except correcting your faulty thinking in the moment. But I don't think my thinking is so faulty!
The PD idea came from me reading every psych description I could, desperately trying to figure out what is wrong with me, identifying a lot with BPD, my h agreeing he thinks it may be BPD, me asking my then psy about it and him saying yes to BPD traits. But I am the one who brought it up to him. So confusing.