Wow. That T sounds like a nightmare. Most people who seek therapy find it helpful yet most therapy is not CBT so your T is factually wrong, CBT is not the only useful approach. It makes me wonder if he is an egotist, a CBT zealot, or ignorant? None of which sounds good. And as for leaving your families out of it-- ha!!!! That is just... so stunningly ridiculous I'm at a loss for words. Sorry to be so negative. Something in your story touched a nerve with me because it felt like victim-blaming and sexism might be playing a role.