He doesn't work because you are supporting him. If he didn't have you he would be working just fine or homeless and hungry. People treat us the way we teach them. You taught him that things will get done. Also longer you live with him more there is s chance you'll pay him spousal support in case of divorce. My husband also couldn't make his ex to keep a job and had no guts to leave. We now paying her rather large alimony for years to come. Judge said she needs set number of years to get on her feet because she never maintained full time employment. So either leave now or accept that things will not change or that they will get worse