A friend used to give me a positive "thought for the day" whether I wanted it or not. He was proving to himself that he was a good person. But he never stopped to talk or listen, just gave unasked advice.

When I did ask him to intervene in a difficult situation I became aware of his real motives.
"You are on your own" he said "and will only be able to overcome this if you change everything you believe about yourself, and the other, and the world to match what I believe".
He wanted to break me down an re-make me in his image so he could continue to believe that he had something to offer as a leader/guru. But the way he delivered the advice showed it was all about his beliefs, his needs, not about compassion.