This has been an ongoing barrage of behaviors (it started 11 years ago). It was a month and a half of texting, not sexting, conversations, plus I worked 40 hours a week with him. There was never any sexual contact or conversation but a hug here and there. We mostly talked about our own struggling marriages. Had it gone on longer, who knows how it would have turned out. My husband said that I'm "stupid" if I deny what would have happened.

I've manipulated to get what I want, lie to be in control but most of all I have a difficult time sharing my feelings with him. He takes it personally because our relationship was "great" before hand. He has never "broke any rules" and that what makes him "better than me."

I have studied Adult Children of Alcoholics and co-dependency information and this is me to a T. He thinks that I've "tricked him" into children and a relationship and he hates me for it. I wish he would go to counseling with me, if it was just to tell the counselor that he doesn't like me.

Thank you so much for your inquire