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Originally Posted by HeLovesMeNot
I recently started dating this guy that I met in a class at my university. We get along super well, and have many things in common. It's been effortless and natural to be with him, which is unusual for me due to my struggles with relationship anxiety. So, naturally, when he asked me to be his girlfriend, I said yes. Since then, I've been physically ill and horribly anxious. I don't want to ruin what I've got going because of something as silly as a label. Does anyone have any tips or advice as to how to cope with this?
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you clearly are aware of your issues with regards to relationships so I think it goes without saying that you realize this probably has nothing to do with him or even anything going on in the relationship itself. With that in mind you'll have to figure out what your anxieties are based on related to being in a relationship and then find a way to eliminate them or cope with them somehow.
Some people can do this on their own being aware of their own issues and are self aware but many of us need a little help. it seems a strong enough response to me, that it might be worth considering finding a T for this if you don't have one already to talk it out and figure it out.
Thing is you said it was natural and effortless being with him. Yet your anxieties still come up. So somehow you need to be able to remind yourself of the good reasons you chose to be with him whenever those anxieties try to come up. Again, I do think talking it out with a T may help.