When I said T abandonment was more than people should expect to deal with on their own, I meant that they should not expect it of themselves... they should not feel weak or faulty if they decide to seek out another T. And when I used the word "advising" I meant it as suggesting that they might benefit, but at no point did I mean to imply people "have to" or "need to" go to therapy or that it's compulsory. I am against the vast majority of court-mandated therapy, so if anything I am at the opposite end of the spectrum entirely.