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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
Why is your definition of who you are based on what he says and a book/article?
You had a guy friend...you hugged and maybe flirted a little....So? That is NOT an emotional affair....
I feel as if he's manipulated you to the point where you believe him. That's not good at all.
We are human. We make mistakes (FWIW, I don't see that you have made any that require "forgiving") That aside, making mistakes (and who or what our parents did) doesn't make us bad people....it just makes us people.
I hope you get to working on forgiving yourself.
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In my heart of hearts (he says I don't have one and that's why this has gone on for so long) I do believe that I am human and have made many, many mistakes. I think that he's mostly upset that I he hasn't been the one for me to turn to for emotional support over the years.
As I get older and learn more about myself, how trauma effects your brain, even in the womb, I have been emotionally stunted and I feel judged by him and that I don't feel comfortable opening up to him. I try, boy do I try. I get scared and say the same things over and over again. He says that I do it on purpose, I avoid on purpose because I want all the control.
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