Tell them what you told us here and let him know you think it would be wise. I realize that might be hard. Just remember you are being proactive and taking care of yourself. I don't like going either, I've been forcibly taken in against my will, but trust me when I say it's not all that bad. One time the place wasn't good, in was in a very poor, impoverished neighborhood and that place wasn't top notch, but the others I've been to have been fine.