I agree. I think it would be a waste of your precious time and emotions to continue to pursue a longterm commited relationship with him. I realise it would pain you greatly to withdraw. This is what you need to do: sit him down and have a two way conversation about what constitutes a 'deal breaker' for each of you. You never know, he might feel strongly enough about you that he would be willing to concede. I have to give him credit though for voicing his opinion before the relationship goes further. I suggest then you do the same. Yes, it will take courage; but, it is a neccesary thing you must do. The above poster mentioned the importance of being able to do this; that being unable to talk about important things is not the ideal pattern for a longterm relationship.