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Originally Posted by Só leigheas
He sounds like it's not just anger. He sounds kind of controlling. My dad use to act like that toward my mom, hell he still does (granted he can hold a job, he's had the same one for twelve years). It's not something a kid needs to be raised around. Personally, I think he should shape up or ship out, but that's easier said than done and much easier when you're just a 3rd party observing like myself. I wish I have good advice for you. I can tell you that with all of the verbal abuse, my mom did go to work, she did start to make something of herself despite my dad's constant insults. I don't know how she did, but it proved to me that it is possible.
Wishing you the best.
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Thank you. He is controlling.. i never realized it fully until recently while looking for support.
I managed to find therapy thankfully, really looking forward to getting some insight and advice. My anxiety and depression is terrible at the minute.. pretty sure that is situational also.
He started a great job yesterday, ended up breaking something in his hand, drinking with them after work, not coming home and now cant work today.
Its just draining. Im at wits end and me being assertive with him just causes fights and an uncomfortable situation in general.
Iv told him if he doesnt make the calls he has to about his debt, go to the doctors for the anger issues and hold down some kind of job that we are leaving.
It feels horrible to let him down and break our family apart but financially its the only option i have.
I want to work so badly. I cannot afford daycare on my wage alone, being with him i get no extra help and most of our tax benefits goes straight towards his unpaid child support so my kids lose out.
Im thinking while i stay at my parents and he has been working away and now not working, we have no shared address or bank accounts anymore. To claim single and get the help i need so i can go to work and support my children the way they need to be. I dont know what other options i have!!!
Thank you for the kind words.