(Sorry for long read)

Hey, I understand how you feel. I myself am very selective of people I want to be friends with, and even though I hang out with people I have known for 5 years, they are still acquaintances to me, and not close friends. This is because my definition of friendship is much deeper than most people’s. I myself did not know English as I began school, at all, and got picked on for it. I myself have had friends in various groups. I myself am very very indecisive. Also have a very hard time socializing.

I don’t believe that there is anything wrong with you- that is just the way you are, the way I am, and there are other people who are this way too. I just want you to know you are not alone with this problem. Sure, I may have a group of people I hang out with, but like I said, I don’t feel that connection I’m looking for, and I also have friends from another group. (Not only that, but those two groups absolutely hate each other. I’ve always been the one in the middle, heh.) But anyway.
My group of friends has changed so much over the years, people came and people went, and a lot of the time I disliked half of my group anyway. What I know Is that over time, people change, their personalities change etc. (all the cliché stuff) and over time, it will be easier for you to find those right people that you fit into. My group changed, and each time it got a little better.

However, I have also learnt that I held a lot of very strict and high expectations for my friendships and so even now, I am not satisfied with any of them. SO at least give what you have now a chance, hang out with the people you want to and don’t worry about fitting yourself directly into a specific group.

Try not to base your friendships on the fact if someone studies or not, or any other single aspect, because that way it will be extremely hard to find the right people. You need to open up a bit and widen that spectrum, allow some flaws etc. Give em a chance, and over time, your set of friends will narrow down, you will see who is worth your time and who isn’t, and it will get better, I’m sure.


I will be going to college next year and am very anxious about the whole friend making thing, but hey, I’m just gonna have to listen to my own advice and see how it goes.

So anyway, sorry for my rambling, I just wanted to make sure you understand you are not alone with this, and there is definitely nothing wrong with you, nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to worry about.

I hope my reply helped at least a little bit. Good luck.