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Originally Posted by ElsaMars
I've known MANY guys who didn't want kids at 26 who changed their minds and now have several who they love and care for greatly. But there is no guarantee he will change his mind. Life is often a crap shoot. We place our bets, cross our fingers and hope for the best. Some wishes and dreams come true, some fall through our fingers like sand in an hourglass. There are no guarantees when it comes to having children even if we do want them and try.
I do think you should seriously talk to him about it and know exactly where he stands. He might not want them, you could decide to leave and a few years later he could have them with someone else...so many possibilities here. Get to the bottom of why he feels the way he does, it could be an eye opener and make your decision much easier. You don't have enough information to make any kind of decision yet.
I'm sorry you are in this situation and I hope it works out well for you. Good luck.
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That's the thing. First yes, she needs to find out for sure where he stands on it as it is, and weigh out whether or not it's important enough to her to make a decision on now. but as for his changing his mind, I would say never bank on that idea and go forward unless you're willing to go forward assuming where he stands now is where it will be in the future and possibly always.
Ultimately I think even considering where people stand on having children at all is a subject that shouldn't even be breached after only 2 weeks of being together!
Sometimes initially in a relationship it starts one way and 2 yrs later you find you are completely different when it comes to stances on many things.
Focus on what it is you have right now this is all just "noise" at the moment, feeding into your anxiety.