Thank you! Im so glad too. Just knowing i can finally talk to somebody who will listen makes me feel much more positive.

I know what you mean, i really feel he should be helping and making an effort.. and that i shouldnt feel so guilty about setting boundaries.. but i feel wrong in asking him to do things hes obviously not comfortable with.
Today i tried to sit down and talk about things and he just really blankly refused. Said that im demanding and i have no business in asking him to figure stuff out..
Do you maybe have any advice on how to ask him to make an effort without sounding demanding or insulting?
I said that i needed him to try calling and sorting out his debt so that we can try get ahead together and he gets really defensive.
I dont want to stoop to a level of unkindness but i really need this for my children.