processing a memory feels different to everyone. short version the brain takes in information through the senses and stores it in the brain. thats a processed memory.

example I am going to eat a slice of apple pie...

my brain processing this...

brown crust, golden apples covered with cinnamon and sugar. (sight)
sniffing and smelling the mixture of crust, apples and cinnamon and sugar (Smell)
dry, flakey, tart, sweet,.... (taste)

eating this apple pie makes me feel warm, happy full, satisfied, ... (emotions)

now the apple pie is gone but I can think and remember that pie because its now a processed memory in my brain not a tangible object sitting on my plate.

my neighbor who hates apple pie her processed memory of eating an apple pie would be different based on everything that she experiences through eating an apple pie.

my point your T cant tell you what it feels like for your processed memories because only you can tell her about your memories. you describe your memories as feeling unreal thats what your brain has processed it to feel like so thats what your processed memory feels like. someday maybe you will be able to feel differently about the things your brain has processed.