Life isn't fair, feeling safe is unrealistic and paranoia is helpful if it's mild. Not very good news but I have heard this information before so I was prepared for it. The mild paranoia bring good is new for me. Still hurts....it's still unfair and employers get away with harassment by convincing us it's just the way it is. Bullies slap you on the back and tell you to man up. It's not really shocking but it is. Feels a little backwards....like opposites day but I'm used to the rhetoric I guess. So I guess there is no solution other than to hold onto my own values.