Perna:

You can define these terms however you want to when you are talking/writing about them. As long as others know your definitions, we can communicate just fine. Usually I link being aggressive with having at least a little anger. But you can define your words however you want to. (:-)

That was a cute mental picture of your relatives fighting over the golden egg with $20 in it. I agree it could be that they were having a great time with their favorite cousin...or they could be resentful over many things in the past and anger isn't far beneath the surface.

Yes, I agree, having models for coping with handling distress or anger is a helpful asset. We should all be so lucky...or lucky enough to have practical classes and cogent teachers through out our first 20 years of life.

Good to hear from you again.

drclay