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Originally Posted by fairydustgirl
so, I have a dilemma of sorts. I am a mandatory reporter in my state for child abuse/neglect. one of the men I had talked to online from a dating site, I finally found online, he had given me 2 false names (I could tell they were) but I pieced things together in a different way based on information he gave me and the location thingy on my ph when he called the other day. (my therapist told me to look up any guy I meet so I got instant checkmate) Anyway, he is a HS principal. he has acted inappropriately in a sexual manner while at school, while talking to me (video once and a picture, of him jerking off in his office) WITH children in the school.
I had blocked him the first time I talked to him which was back in August, because I thought he was creepy, he made a new profile and found me again a week ago and so after a short conversation I was going to give him a second chance.
Beyond the fact I found out that he is married and has kids at home which would have been a no go for me anyway (I asked him if he was married yesterday when we were texting, he said no) his behavior while in the presence of other people's children is SO disturbing to me I can't even describe my disgust.
I sent him a message saying so, and not to contact me again, I blocked him from my ph and the website.
My issue now is, do I report him? like a dummy I deleted our conversation, although it didn't have his name or his face in any pictures. I don't know how I would prove to anyone it is him, other than the fact that I saw him on webcam and talked to him via skype. so a 'he said, she said' thing and a pretty big deal to bring some kind of child abuse charges on him if it were to come to that. I would call it possible child endangerment, not necessarily abuse or neglect since he was talking to an adult.
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I wouldn't know what they would call it, but it's not abuse of any children since they weren't actually present in the room. I know the problem is that a student could walk in on him if he were too stupid to have a lock on the door but at best this is just inappropriately exposing himself in a school. I imagine he could get fired for it and probably should.
Without proof though I'm not sure how much would happen, they would probably put him under investigation at the very least and if there are any on campus closed circuit tv security, they might be able to catch him. As a father with kids in HS I would say it's probably worth reporting him, to get this on record, even though it may not result in his termination.
if you can move on without reporting it in good conscience then so be it, but if it's going to be something that you feel compelled to report, I don't see any reason that makes me think you shouldn't do so.
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thing is, school websites have filters that are so sensitive you can't even share a chicken breast recipe without it being flagged. so I don't know how he managed to skype from his office without being caught.
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Using a phone, it is not going to go through the filters of the school. the school is on a network with the proxies and filters necessary but it only goes as far as using anything attached to that network. Schools, or any other place of business do not have their own networks set up for cell phone use. They go through the cell service the person is on which go through cell towers.
I work in a government building, that is federal. Things are very locked down in the building, even right up to using gmail itself, which is blocked but I can switch to my personal phone, and use gmail because they can't easily block it without turning off cell useage for all services.
Anyway that's how.