Hello ClutterHeadAugust: Well... the Skeezyks doesn't really know about all of this. But I saw that no one had replied to your post. So I thought I would.

I guess as long as one can keep one's fantasizing to oneself, then it really is no one else's business, in my opinion. However, when it begins to affect a person's day-to-day life & relationships with family members & friends, etc. then it becomes a different situation.

There's one thing I can say with regard to this that I have written a number of times in reply to other posts. Everyone including family members & friends, etc. has her or his limits. And it is up to those of us who struggle with mental health issues to find a way to not be continually pushing up against, or going beyond, those limits. If we cannot, or will not, then we have to realize that we risk being abandoned. That is, from my perspective, the cold, hard reality of the situation.

Perhaps the important thing here, particularly when it comes to relationships with significant others, is open communication so that the person who is doing the fantasizing can express what it is that is going on with them & the "significant other" can delineate what they can & can't tolerate... in other words they can express what they hold to be their limits... or borders...