Wow, good work longingforhome. I could see where talking about touch could be tough for anyone but then to add on the ex-T trauma, that's a lot you had to fight your way through.

Maybe just talking about these feelings will help some. I know some T's (psychodynamic?) love to talk about what a client's daydreams / fantasies are... partly, I assume, because they're often rich material for looking at what was missing in early years.

I don't think your having this urge means he is unsafe, although if your parents / caretakers were in some ways unsafe I could see how that would get associated with caretaking behaviors. I think probably it's just that he's a caretaking figure, so of course a very young part of you would want comfort from him.

This could be just a limited, specific kind of transference... hopefully as a T he will have some idea how to proceed.