your advice has worked wonders so far. i told him that everyday we should tell each other something that we like about each other. the last time we got into a fight we both said that anymore we cant remember why we even like each other and why were still together.

and this has helped a lot. we have been really good the past few days. no fights at all. he seems much more excited to see me and every night before we go to bed we tell each other something about the other person that we like.

and i also admitted that my problem could be with trying to control him. in my last relationship my ex used to hit me and emotionally abuse me and was cheating on me. so i sat down and thought about it and i think maybe i put him down and make everything his fault because then i have the control. and after being abused for so long its like im going overboard. i just dont know how to find that middle ground. at least i realized it though before he just gave up and left because now that i know that im being overly controlling because of my past i am making a conscious effort and so is he. its been much better.

thank you all for posting.