Yes, I think misattunement is at least part of the issue here. Even though they were just tiny things, the fact that my parents are constantly misattuned to my needs made it quite triggering. My parents try very hard to understand me and care a lot but often miss the mark and I feel as though I must be abnormal and that there is something wrong with me. I always felt as though T really "got" me and was perfectly attuned (and she still is for the most part) but when tiny little things disrupt that I feel extremely disappointed and angry with her.