I replied to and related to the thread "The joy of pretending" but this one has confused me I think though, that I've figured out where my confusion stems from and so, in the event anyone else can see themselves in this post...here I go:

Pretending for me is this: Yagr is talking to an adult and completely unexpectedly they mention their favorite Disney songs. We've switched. I mean the opportunity to talk about 'Under the Sea' is just too good to pass up and the body just got jacked. Now Sonseearae is having the conversation, not Yagr. We aren't pretending here.

But Sonseearae knows that if she cannot pretend to be me effectively, the Under the Sea conversation is going to very quickly turn in to a 'who are you and what have you done with my friend' conversation - so she pretends to be me while talking all things mermaid.

That's how I meant 'pretending' in the first thread and I assumed that everyone else who was talking about pretending meant. Kind of self-centered thinking....I'll have to keep a better eye on that. Anyway, my point is that an alter can take over completely and present as if no switching took place. Is this what you are referring to as 'pretending'?