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Originally Posted by yagr
I replied to and related to the thread "The joy of pretending" but this one has confused me I think though, that I've figured out where my confusion stems from and so, in the event anyone else can see themselves in this post...here I go:
Pretending for me is this: Yagr is talking to an adult and completely unexpectedly they mention their favorite Disney songs. We've switched. I mean the opportunity to talk about 'Under the Sea' is just too good to pass up and the body just got jacked. Now Sonseearae is having the conversation, not Yagr. We aren't pretending here.
But Sonseearae knows that if she cannot pretend to be me effectively, the Under the Sea conversation is going to very quickly turn in to a 'who are you and what have you done with my friend' conversation - so she pretends to be me while talking all things mermaid.
That's how I meant 'pretending' in the first thread and I assumed that everyone else who was talking about pretending meant. Kind of self-centered thinking....I'll have to keep a better eye on that. Anyway, my point is that an alter can take over completely and present as if no switching took place. Is this what you are referring to as 'pretending'?
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yes sort of thats what I mean only there is.... no pretending.... the alters just keep switching. to use your situation in your post instead of sonseearae pretending to be you, a switch happens so that the conversation about mermaids is with you again....
heres another of my own systems examples...
thunder and lightending I switch into rainy. a friend talks about sunshine so a switch happens and sunny is talking about sunshine but then the conversation turns to intimacy so a switch happens and now its thelma. then the conversation turns to the last storm we had so a switch happens and its now rainy talking....
no one is pretending to be anyone else just constant switching from one to another depending upon who handles what.
there is no questioning by others like who are you, what did you do with my friend because no one is pretending to be anyone else. just switching from one to another based on who's job, purpose, reason for being is to handle that situation.
I called this thread "pretending the other side" because in life there are two sides to things those that do and those that dont. this thread is the other side of the other pretending thread. I had a system of alters that did not pretend and did not want to hijack the other thread that was for those that do have an element of pretending in their system.