I understand. But there's almost no way to get that sort of comfort as an adult. If you got that comfort from your T, you'd be crossing boundaries in probably more than one way (your T's, your own, ethical). So you have to do your best to get it elsewhere. And if you want comfort from another person, your spouse would be the next best thing.

It's okay to get some of your needs met by your spouse. I cuddle with my fiance every night to get my touch needs met. He doesn't mind because he knows how much it helps me.