Speaking to you about your brother's faulty reaction, I have a sister who is nice to me generally, but if I ever mention my own abuse, she becomes wildly cruel, blaming me as " the only one who can't rise above victim status." She is very detached and mean spirited when she says such things. It helped me to learn that this is called "secondary trauma." The first trauma is what happened to you when you were a little kid, the second is the misguided, ineffective, and damaging things which the bystanders say and do. Unfortunately, it is part of the healing work, this secondary trauma. I too wish we lived in a world where siblings and others understand and bring comfort and healing if the first instance. Sometimes people don't understand the nature of trauma, and once educated they improve in there ability to be supportive. And other times, certain people, for whatever reason, are impossible to educate about nature of trauma. Please don't think I have it all figured out. I'm broken hearted by my sister's reaction and it is so hard on my self esteem. But the ideas of "secondary trauma" and "education around trauma" have helped me in the past to heal. I feel for you very much. Please be gentle with yourself.