Okay, if a man can't aim into the toilet then he needs to just sit on the damn thing. I'm sorry that's just disgusting and unsanitary.

Here's the deal, you need boundaries. You are uncomfortable with him staying in your home because of the way he behaves. So they need to get a hotel when they come to stay. Period. Have you told your BF about his dad going through your stuff and peeing in the bathroom, not in the toilet? Your BF should really talk to your dad about this behavior. Can you get him to say to his dad, "please do not use her bathroom. You're welcome in our home, but we need our privacy too."

If your BF is unable to do this on your behalf or change his own behavior, I would really question continuing the relationship. The racist comments are just unacceptable. The fact that, with you in the room, he can't exercise manners and composure, is a huge red flag. I'm not saying that this is a point against your BF, but if BF is unwilling to stand up for you to his dad, do not walk, RUN away.

The racist comments are just...well it seems to me that the dad is trying to insult you. There's really no excuse for it. None of this, it just slipped out business sells with me anymore. I live in the deep South. It's 2016, if you don't know better by now, it's because you choose to continue to behave in a racist, disgusting way.

Good luck,
Seesaw