My ex T says also says it is better to look for someone whom you have a good rapport as long as they are willing to learn... it isn't necessary for them to have experience with dissociative disorders.

Having said that I have looked high and low with someone who fits that criteria in my current area and have found no one. One therapist kept talking about DID as though it was schizophrenia, another told me outright that DID doesn't exist, and my current t is just as clueless. I am starting with another t soon (hopefully this week) and am trying to muster up the courage to just be upfront about it with her. It is hard when the people who are supposed to know about this stuff seem to view it in the same vein as alien abduction or something like that. When I have tried to talk about DID with Ts here they look at me as though I am telling them I believe I have three heads, six arms and an elephant trunk growing out of my back.

Yeah.
No.

If you have a good rapport with your T and believe she is willing to learn alongside you, then you have struck gold.