My husband and i are going through a terrible rough patch. I want it to work so badly, but im struggling to see that as an option now.

Financially we are at rock bottom after i fell pregnant with our 3rd baby and both of us lost our jobs. Since, he has struggled to find permanent work and his lack of child support for his ex caused him to lose his license. He is an impulsive spender and struggles to stay in work due to his uncontrollable anger which has gotten worse recently.
Lately, i have become nervous that he is controlling. Iv felt like nothing i do is good enough, im always worried that something is going to anger him so i try and avoid it at all costs.

I wanted to sit down and discuss how im feeling about everything and how we could improve but he refused. He said he doesnt want to discuss anything and said im making it an unnecessary big deal. Iv asked him to call child maintenence since they are now cutting into our childrens tax benefits and he refuses and gets angry.

I feel hopeless. He has stopped showing love or affection and im now greeted with angry looks or just avoidance.

I stay home with our young children because we cant afford the daycare. I cant afford further education and im just miserable. I feel like i would have more oppurtunity without him.. but i fear these thoughts are also negatively affecting our relationship.

How can i communicate with someone who doesnt want to? He says no to couples therapy, iv told him that im tired of nagging to talk. That he can come to me when hes ready.. but it has been 2 weeks now and not a word.

Any advice?? I want to save our family. But im out of ideas.