Wow, you've got a chance to land you a bartender. You don't want to rock that boat.

Sorry, sorry. I do know that, right now, this seems like a genuine dilemma. And it is. When I was your age, I was every bit as tied up in knots, as you are now . . . over a guy offering less.

This guy is probably not a commiter - not to a kid, and, eventually, not to you. He's prolonging his adolescence as long as he can. Three years away from turning 30, and he's still hanging around the spots that are hot with the young. He's either performing, or he's tending bar. You probably worry that he can replace you easily. At 27, it's still cool to be in the band. It gets less cool, as the years go by. He does what he does because he doesn't want a real job. He's not preparing for a real job. He's living a teenager's dream, and he doesn't want it to end. So he mean's it about not wanting a kid.

Probably none of what I'm saying helps you to feel less in a dilemma. At age 22, I think you can do better. But you're in love. That's hard to walk away from. However, believe it or not, success in life takes more than love. When there's love, but not a whole lot else, it's really not all that. It may take you 15 years to figure that out.

Learn from him. Try to do what he does. Put yourself first. He never will. And that'll get old.