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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
This situation must have been very painful for you, and actually something similar happened right here on this board a while ago, so I'm sure others around here can empathise too.
It does seem like she didn't realise how traumatic the experience has been for you. It must feel terribly invaldating. Do you think you can speak to your counsellor about this?
I had a situation earlier this year where my therapist didn't realise how much my relationship with my first therapist had hurt me and minimised my experience. I ended up getting quite frustrated with him and telling him he didn't get it. After that he started to realise he had misstepped and became much more validating.
I think communication could be key for you here. I hope she responds in a validating way at your next session.
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Thanks, Echos. Absolutely...I think that's what I'm struggling with. I'm going to have to say something, but was hoping for a smoother run up. We only have 5 sessions to work on this now. I wanted to say 'Really?' when she first came out with that...'If I could just let it go, do you think I would be here now?'
Yeah, there were a variety of possible responses that went through my head, but none came out of my mouth. I just went on to say 'This person supported me through another traumatic situation, and I trusted them with aspects of my emotional life, and was then trusted with certain emotional aspects of theirs that turned out to be ********.'
Counsellor's letter to my GP also makes reference to 'letting it go' as part of my goal...I need her to define what she means by that, stat.
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