Oh , how many times do we hear " Why don't you just let this go ? " Like it was that easy - we would all do it. And it coming from therapists and counsellors is even worse. Like Echos mentioned we see it here too. It was happening in another part of the forum that someone was playing out a persona other than themselves. I wasn't involved but I watched the fallout from it. Even people we know or think we know are often not what they seem. All sorts of feelings are hit , deception , betrayal , trusting , and it's painful. I'm sorry you're going through this.