No i wasnt aware of any of this when we married. He did pay child support when we met. His ex took him to court for 2 years backpay from during the time he didnt know when the child was his bio child. (Dna testing) which resulted in almost 18,000 debt.
Since he has basically turned his back on it. I knew him years before we married and he always was employed.. seemed to have his stuff together.

I started noticing this about 1-2 years into our marriage during my pregnancy with our son. He started lying, i realized the extent of his debt and also lack of motivation and commitment.

I was starting to feel the end was near when my son turned 1.. right about that time my birth control failed and i found out i was pregnant again. I couldnt bring myself to terminate the pregnancy so i continued and hoped for the best.
Now our youngest is 6 months and it is worse than ever.

His good qualities seem to be running short now.. he used to be amazing with me and my children. Caring, strong and protective. Passionate and always making sure our family was well looked after and having fun. He cooks dinner for us every night and so on.

I guess i feel guilt because i wonder if hes going through depression or some other kind of problem. That i should be helping and not leaving him.
For example, this morning i woke up with the babies early and let him sleep in like he asked. At 9am he woke up in a terrible mood, was angry that i didnt wake him up. He refused to wait for me while i got the kids dressed, and left to town without me even though i told him i needed to go. He had emptied my purse around the floor looking for my bank card, obviously in a angry fit. He had taken my makeup bag and thrown it to the back of the cupboard behind some stuff.
When he came back he was all smiles and apologized. Told me he bought my favourite breakfast and said he was just grumpy. Kissed me for the first time in days and grabbed the kids and started cooking.

Am i overreacting? Am i crazy? Should i accept that anger is his personality flaw? I have no idea.