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Originally Posted by MariaLucy
Yes, fighting my corner for me, here, is vital and crucial for my sense of empowerment. His last words in his so called ending letter said 'this is just how it is' which was red rag to a bull, as he doesn't get to call the shots here. It was disempowering but they are used to treating severely mentally ill people who would just crumble and not fight back. I am actually feeling empowered by fighting back. I can take him to court, I can complain to this professional bodies, I can fight for what I need. I may or may not take him up on some ending sessions, if he EVER offers them, because a part of me thinks he is a ***** for how and what he did to me. But he has deliberately made this ending horrible and painful for me and I won't take this lying down. He should know this. He has worked with me for six years and he knows I will stand up now and fight if people dump ***** on me.
for those of you who are thinking 'poor burned out therapist' - he still could have ended with me better than this. He deliberately turned against me, reporting me for putting condolence flowers and a card through this door (well he wasn't returning to work was he?!) and yet this is the same man that I have on recording saying that he would always give me his home address so that I could keep in touch and he fully expected me to turn up on his door if he ever did something so awful as to abruptly end with me (my worst nightmare that he spent years reassuring me that he would never do.). this man has been unethical. as I said before his services have been suddenly withdrawn in contravention of a detailed and sensitive therapy termination plan that we had worked out between us. This has left my sense of trust broken and my sense of security in fragments.
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Thank you for the clear explanation! I wasn't sure what the exact motivation was, but it makes sense that you would want to use the process for empowerment.
I think my biggest worry or concern for you is that if the closure sessions are granted that it will add to the pain rather than relieve it, since it would be under less than amicable terms. You may no longer see that warm, caring therapist that you worked with for 6 years. So, I warn you to be careful and if they are granted ask for the session to be supervised to ensure a standard of care. Or at least have a network of support (doesn't need to be a therapist) that you can talk to after the sessions occur.
And even if they are not, maybe you can still have an expanded explanation as to why it happened.
Either way, I hope the process leads you closer to feeling self-empowered and that it that the complaint is swiftly resolved.