I think thats not how therapy works.

When i was in the hospital for a physical matter a few years ago, my t offered to drive me home. I took a taxi home, but his offering made me feel cared for, made me feel i had a choice, made me feel not alone. I didnt need for him to ACTUALLY drive me home. My brain just needed to hear somebody repeatedly saying, i would drive you home, i want to get you a birthday present, etc.

I think your t feels that the years you spent talking about your termination process, WERE your termination process. He would never leave you hanging. He would always be there for you. Where is your love for him? If you didnt come to love him sometime during those six years, you are not going to start to love him now. So in that way, you are more like a brand new client. You never attached to him. I dont say this to blame you or hurt you, but to try to explain what might be meant by "how it is". He never reached you. You never trusted him - not just this last episode, but over all the six years.