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Originally Posted by Marilyn2016
So, I'm being told that it's depression. Then I'm told it's because he's not in the mood. Then it's the Adderall. Then, it's another excuse....
I don't think he's cheating on me. I trust him. However, he's completely lost all interest in sex. I get no indication that he's even attracted to me anymore. He quit drinking a few months back, and he's been kinda up and down mood wise since. No surprise for those of us who know how addiction works. Anyway, it's impossible for him to get aroused, and nothing I do helps. He just doesn't want it anymore.
So, what am I allowed to say to this? Should I just say nothing forever? Should I keep confronting him? Should I ask him to get expensive viagras? I just wish he desired me, and I haven't seen that in him in ages. I feel like I have a roomie instead of a husband. He has no interest when I'm nude or wearing lingerie, no interest if I get him nice things, no interest ever.
What's a girl to do? Any thoughts?
Thanks for reading.
Marilyn
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It could be any number of things. Depression and drugs for it kill sex drive. Did he ever have a strong sex drive ? I never really was excited by vanilla sex (have a fetish) but could get by when we were younger. As my fetish grew it became the only thing that excites me for the most part and as you can imagine that isn't great when your married. Viagra may help,but what I think would help the most is you two talking and not making him feel bad about it. The worst thing for a guy is to feel bad about not pleasing his girl. Speak with him,tell him you love him,spend time with him.