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Originally Posted by Tres-Aime
It is so difficult to make new friends. Will I have to answer questions? Yes. They always ask. At first when I found out about my actual conditions I would blurt them out. Then the people I would meet would ask me more questions, and trigger me. I have given up on people for the longest time. Hanging on to the old dead relationships just to avoid making new ones isn't working. These people keep getting further away from me as I grow apart from them and I am losing my small support system... So how to avoid the probing questions and form friendships without disclosing my PTSD and anxiety/depression issues, and dance around their questions while still forming some kind of relationship? I just want people to accept me and stop dissecting me and judging. Too much rejection...
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Sorry to hear that. I've always had a hell of a time making quality friends most of my life due to some of my issues with anxiety, depression, and shyness. I like what Seesaw said.
She hit the nail on the head with everything she said! It's a mistake to tell people that you don't know that well about your issues no matter how nice they seem at first. A LOT of people DO judge people with M.I issues. Do NOT say a word to anyone!
Even when you get to know them better, only tell them what they need to know, but if they don't need to know anything, then keep things to yourself. Even good friends have judged me in the past! So has my family and husband!
Like Seesaw said, just change the subject and tell them you'd rather not talk about whatever it is that they're asking. Try joining meetup.com. There are support groups on there for people with mental health issues.
Maybe you can also try meeting friends online. Try socialjane.com. It's free to join. Or post an ad on the platonic section of craigslist. I've met a few women on there that way, and some of these women who I haven't met yet, but will soon might turn into new friends.
Always keep things light hearted when meeting new people. Don't talk about personal issues as that tends to scare away most people. Trust me on that. Don't be needy and contact them to much either as that will put off most people as well. I had to learn all of this the hard way. Are you on meds? If not, they might help you with your issues.
Another thing that will help is ask people questions about themselves. Most people love to talk about themselves. That way the pressure if off you then-
