I have a strong desire that makes me want to have a relationship with someone I'm physically attracted to.

Sounds pretty normal, right? Well the problem is I currently have a girlfriend who doesn't turn me on. We both care for each other, but I don't find her physically attractive, and I don't want to drop the bomb on her because she will hurt a lot. I've told her she deserves someone better than me, who will make her life happier than me, but she really is in love with me. I'm not sure how to proceed.

I thought it would work, that if I cared enough for someone, like I do her, I would fall in love with her (which I do love her) and find her physically attractive (but this hasn't happened yet). I'm a recovering porn addict, which she knows. I know that has everything to do with this, because if you love someone, other things don't matter, unless you've got a skewed image of women like I must. This porn addiction, btw, is because I was emotionally seduced into sex when I was too young and not ready.

I hate myself for having pulled her into a relationship that isn't balanced for her or for me. I see a counselor, I'm not sure how to handle this.