I am wishing for your healing and hope that you will work on it no matter what.

I personally don't think it's fair for anyone to tell another to "hush" about what they are going through--- wow! that shouldn't even happen in a support forum.
Too many of us were told that very thing as children. I'm so sorry you've experienced such I guess some just don't understand.

I'm here and will support you any way I can-- I may not read all, because of my own upset, but those are my own issues and not your fault or anyone else here.

Please, work on healing in the way that works for you.
freewill-

mandy