We all have our reasons and whether we miss the partner themselves or the love they fulfilled, even briefly, it feels like being shown the world and having it taken away and it's so hard to let go of that when we didn't really want to. When we weren't ready to go off and explore on our own.

However, we must explore the deeper reasons beyond the relationship itself especially if the breakup created such an impact as to keep us occupied by it for so long.

My usual recommendations are books and youtubes which helped me, in addition to connecting with a therapist. Now, with the option for skype sessions, we have access to therapists who we can choose based on precise points in their mission statements that seem right to us.

Book: Getting Past Your Break Up by Susan Elliott who also has a Youtube Channel. Her book offers an excellent guideline for journal writing and taking inventory of your relationships as well as your life. Writing in a journal has been a great healing experience for me, even freestyle. Her exercise bring common threads to light.

https://www.youtube.com/user/GettingPastYourPast/videos

Therapist and Relationship Coach Alan Robarge offers profound insight on Attachment Theory and understanding your attachment style and possible attachment injuries and trauma. Here is a video from his brilliant Youtube Channel


If we keep doing the work and explore everything behind our pain, we have a better chance of finding true contentment within ourselves and with the RIGHT partner.

Wishing each of you the best.

Sincerely,
Lele