That is something I struggle with too. I even find myself fighting tears if I am alone at home, like somehow it's not okay to cry. I know that it is okay though. My T has poked the wrong buttons a time or two and I had trouble getting the subject changed in time. I know i can be pretty volatile when I'm upset, and I really can't think of a place I feel safe in letting some things out of the cage. Maybe the middle of a dessert, some place I can't tear the hell out of things.