Aw, I see. Yeah, it's hard to really know a person. So many people get married and don't really know the person and then end up divorced. I hate to be all "you should leave him" but I don't know that this is a healthy relationship if he can't be sensitive to something SO important. I mean, forget the messy father business...he calls people of color baboons and monkeys. Just not okay. At all.

I think you really need to consider if staying in this relationship will be healthy for you. If he won't go to bat for you with something SO important, how will it be for other things?

Good luck,
Seesaw