I don't at all blame the OP for the dependency her T fostered and her feelings around the ending, she is responsible for her own actions though and turning up at the home of someone who you saw professionally, without invitation, when he is off work for personal reasons is at best misguided. I'm not surprised he reported her, though he presumably gave her his address in the first place.

So no, I don't think she is to blame for her emotional reaction but she is responsible for what she chooses to do with that. Writing to him, turning up at his house, texting him and having other people write to him when he is clear he can't see her - that's quite a lot. Whatever happens she will need to let go of her ex-T and the hope of a satisfactory ending st some point.