When my ex T wrote and said I cannot write to him anymore, he forgot one thing. I am the victim of his incompetence so I can report him and tell him that I am doing so. He doesn't actually get to call the shots here.
I asked a more senior psychologist if writing my ex-T was 'prohibited' because ex t had 'told me not to' and the senior and more experienced psychologist wrote back:
His asking you not to contact him is a mistake in his professionalism not something you have to collude with - there is no legal and certainly no ethical reason to go along with this but there may be a strategic reason for you and for us fighting your corner– however, I would probably see what response we get to my proposal first before sending anything else to these people

What I do find fascinating is that if a t does something wrong, we are shouted at for going and confronting him. What I haven't told you all is in August 2014 this man kissed me on the top of my head and several times over the last four years, he has pulled me close and held me tight against him when I didn't ask for it and didn't want it. Am I meant to go and hire another therapist for me to cope with this or do I take it to source and complain to him about what he did? I prefer the latter.

the last time this happened in therapy (abuse) and I complained, I was told not to contact the therapist anymore and that I was harrassing him. I got his professional body and let them 'harass' him instead until he was struck off after going round to his house (WHERE I HAD SESSIONS!!) and telling him that unless he apologised he was going to be struck off. He choose to deny it. It took six months before he admitted what he had done. And then got struck off.
they are not gods. they don't get to call the shots when they have shirked their professional responsibilities. they ARE accountable.

I am not sitting back and letting this guy get away with treating me like **** and knowing he has treated me like ****.