i must say that i agree with perna. find out what your options are. what type of assistance you will need and the places that offer it. safe houses sound like the best bet for immediate relief and they aren't like they used to be. most offer asistance with school, job search and training, even child care. they could even help you find a place to live. safe houses have a whole network of people they work with to help women in your situation.

as a child raised in that environment myself i beg you to take your children and run. when he becomes bored with breaking your will, most likely your kids are next. please keep that in mind while pondering your decision. i dont think it's a "should i stay or should i go". it's a when and where and as soon as possible I WILL GO. your kids are learning this behavior. and just as you didn't want to become your mother, if you dont leave, they will become you or their father. it's a cycle YOU have to break.